Recently I asked a close friend of mine a universal scary question. “If me and your wife fell into the river and both of us were drowning, you can only save one person, who will you save?” Honestly, even before he answer the question, the answer is pretty obvious. I am not interested in the answer, but the thought of seeing him pretending to be in dilemna is gratifying.
A lot of times, we find ourselves in situations like this where deep down we know the answer. Yet we have to pretend that we are struggling because too clear cut and straightforward an answer will either be too hurting to the recipent or it reflect bad on us. For example, if anyone ask me the above same question, and in this case the two person are my hubby and my mother. Deep down, I know I will save my hubby in the nick of time. Yet, I cannot give an answer immediately. Because I do not want to be seen as unfilial though filial piety is never an issue here.
Pretend to be in dilemna gets you and out of the situation. It is an easier way out than to give a direct answer and attempt to explain your decision and justify them.
So, next time, you see someone in a dilemna, in situation not life and death, enjoy the show.
